What 25 years with Hospice has taught me about Legacy.

What began as the worst time of my life has turned into my life’s work.

Funny how that happens.

Jim Hoatson, 1999

My Dad was diagnosed with colon cancer in 1999 at the age of 60, and he died one year later. Navigating the healthcare system took its toll, and eventually the decision was made to move him — and my Mum — into our home so we could help.

I saw firsthand how heavy it all was. With no experience or understanding of the dying process, everything felt overwhelming. I remember waiting in an Emergency Room while doctors ordered more tests to tell us what we already knew. Then, a wonderful person named Donna Bere arrived. Donna was the Executive Director of Hospice Georgian Triangle, and she offered my Dad an opportunity we didn’t even know existed.

A private room. Nurses and PSWs providing personal care. Amazing volunteers who brought comfort and dignity.

My life was changed forever.

I’ve had the privilege of supporting families through my work at several hospices in Ontario. I’ve met thousands of families experiencing the same fear I once felt, and thousands more looking for support as they grieve their loved ones.

And when I say it has been a privilege — I absolutely mean it. Every interaction has made me a better person, and I’m honoured to walk alongside people during such a challenging time.

Over the years, I’ve had countless conversations with patients, families, caregivers, volunteers, and donors that have inspired me in my work as a fundraiser.

Nursing wasn’t in my future — but supporting that work certainly was. And I’ve found great success in connecting people who want to help with those who truly need it.

The number one thing I hear is:“This type of care should be available to every single person… how can I help?”

When people see how donations create real impact — for themselves and for others — it changes them. And when they realize that our tax dollars can only stretch so far, they understand why the charitable sector matters. They want to be part of something meaningful.

Hospice provides that connection.It also provides the opportunity for legacy.

People simply want to be remembered.To be able to say: “I was here, and my life mattered.”

That’s why you’ll see so many names on donor walls… or along paths… on benches and trees at Hospice Homes. It’s a beautiful way to honour a life — and to know that your generosity is bringing comfort to other families as they walk this journey.

Any charity can help supporters leave a legacy, but it takes relationship-building. It takes passion for your mission — and the ability to connect it back to what every donor truly wants: to be part of something bigger than themselves, and to help solve a problem they care deeply about.

You just have to find that connection.

And I’d be happy to help.

Be well,

Deb